005.10 COME BACK CIRCLE
Often when we’re in a group conversation, instead of actually listening, we rehearse what we’re going to say or we rehash what we’ve said. It can be challenging to stay in the moment and truly listen. Staying present when we’re speaking can be, oddly, even more challenging. This activity helps us to listen and to come back when we’ve drifted.
LISTEN
COME BACK CIRCLE
Preparation
This is a solo or group activity.
Timing is variable.
You'll need someone to listen to.
Group Instructions
Go around in a circle and share something in turn (e.g., "How are you, really?" or "What's the best sandwich?")
Before your turn, try not to rehearse.
During your turn, try to stay present while talking.
After your turn, avoid rehashing what you said.
Notice when you've drifted from being present and try to re-engage in listening.
Solo Instructions
In a meeting or conversation, secretly practice presence while listening and speaking. You don't need others to practice coming back.
Extend
Use for meeting openers or updates.
Use in one-on-one conversations.
Consider
Did you drift? Why, when, and how often?
Where did you go when you drifted? Is this where you usually go? If not, where do you usually drift?
Was it like for you to listen in this way?
